4 Differences in How Men and Women Think

how men and women think

How men and women think are two very different worlds. I’ll say here what I will say at the end, there isn’t a definition of right or wrong between the two, just the angle of difference.

We live in a society where labels are a common thing. For this reason I decided to go on a mission of analysis regarding the male and female psyche. This is a piece of opinion so I ask that you read it as such. It’s all meant in good fun pointing out how men and women think.

how men and women think

It is my opinion that men and women think in a way that is almost polar opposite. That may be an extreme way to explain it, but I will elaborate that point further in this post.

A general consensus between male and female roles and titles is this: Men can be labeled assholes. There is no use trying to defend that one, sometimes you just need to accept things for what they are. This helps further define us in the fact that we tend to be predictable.

Women on the other hand hold a different kind of label which, as you can probably guess, is the instinctual role of being unpredictable. This is why it’s much easier to call the lot of you crazy. As mentioned above, sometimes you have to simply accept things for what they are.

Think of it this way: If you were to ask a man’s friend how they would probably react toward a given situation it can be cliff-noted path toward two possible answers:

“He would probably get pissed off”

“He probably wouldn’t give a shit”

Beyond those statements there is a blank void because we like to keep things simple. We like this so much that we have taken efforts toward being predictable. Emotions are a confusing thing and I believe there was a time we tried to make sense of them…and it was at that moment that the world could define what a mentally challenged person was. Yes, our brains, like fine china, are fragile.

Now we can point out the first major difference in how men and women think:

Women as a whole tend to be quite unpredictable. When you consider how a woman might react to a given situation trying to accurately map it out has a success ratio identical to how often Hillary Clinton tells the truth. All right, I won’t get political, but it was a very accurate way of describing that point.

how men and women think

Women have a variety of factors that could impact the way they respond. It could be the weight of current emotional baggage, man’s best friend also known as hormones, and who knows what else. Once all that is considered then you can get to how they may react if that all passed with flying colors.

For those that haven’t comprehended this point yet, the male side of the spectrum here versus the female side, from a visual representation, could be a caveman being compared to a scientific equation. Numbers defining actions and god knows what else versus the male side, which is the equivalent of two different grunts.

A majority of men become fixated on negative things. These negative things then become a splinter, a feeling like a stick poking a bear would create. It’s safe to safe that are coping skills are limited.

As for women, they are able to mentally block out negative things and just become entranced in the positive. If witchcraft needed a viable argument, I may have found it one, but on a serious note, this is one hell of a magic trick. To this day I don’t know how to do it.

An Example of Differences of Thought Could be Driving

How men and women think and how they act are two entirely different monsters, but it’s definitely worth thinking about. If you were to put a man and a woman on opposite sides of a stop sign who do you think would go first?

Before there is an impulsive jump to say the immature high school kid who likes to race daddy’s car, slow down. He crashed yesterday. The fact is that a man will wait forever for the woman to go first. This is not an act of chivalry, in fact, this is an act of survival. It’s not our fault that we have to ask ourselves “what if she changes her mind?” We may be cavemen, but our memory is powerful.

Women are famous for changing their mind. The routine journey of seeking out happiness and satisfaction  for a woman operates off of a roulette wheel. It constantly changes. It can be argued that it’s not ALL women, but a good enough number that it gets recognized. We all know someone that we’ve personally diagnosed with dementia, and yes, I’m referring to the person who has a different set of “needs” on a weekly rotation.

Waiting for a man to change their mind could be the most frustrating journey in a woman’s lifetime. When a man makes up their mind, it’s set. We identify things that make us happy, bookmark them in our mind, and that’s that. Navigation away from this found knowledge we simply view as stupid.

Men Hate Change, Women Find it Exciting

How men and woman think toward the concept of change is also very different. As mentioned above, men get set in their ways. We develop a schedule and we stick to it. A proposal that offers significant change may get the reaction of a nodded head, but internally there is a voice that is screaming the word “why.”

Men like simplicity. The more cut and dry things are the better. Change goes against our very nature. The only exception is significant issues that need to be addressed.

Women on the other hand find change to be exciting. They view it as an opportunity to try new things, learn, and test out the magic of life’s many mysteries. While women quest for experience men enroll in a similar journey, to unveil our own mysteries, except our version is a round of Overwatch and finding new ways to flank the enemy team.

Men are Negative and Brutally Honest, Women are Positive but Dreamy

We are back to general feelings of how men and women think. Male and female outlooks on the world are almost entirely different. Lets take a simple angle, the casual question of “How are things going,” it should be a simple answer, right? Well, lets explain how this can be complicated.

A woman’s life could be in complete and total chaos and it’s likely they will respond with:
“Things are great,” or “Things are okay,” but you will rarely, if ever, hear a woman admit their day is going bad. Woman prefer to save up the energy and just have a crazy freak out in the near future. I don’t understand it, but we all see that it happens.

Men on the other hand tend to be a bit more up front. We can promise our dedicated honesty whether things are going well or not. We even put it on display with colorful response’s like:
“Life is shit,” or something that would indicate we may be seeking ways to poison our mind. Interpret that as you wish, each person has their own form of poison.

Men are blunt with the possibility of being obnoxious, and women are quiet with the possibility of being confusing. .It’s a happy mix that helps divide the way men and women think. Back to the point though, when it comes to spitting out negative shit about one’s life,  men have made it something of an art form.

The Idea of Advice

Through the process of time we are given a gift of common sense. In this common sense comes an awareness for emotional stability, being supportive, and the act of giving advice. Advice is something that has good intent and involves logic that leads to reason.

The problem here is that women like to defy both logic and reason, which leads us to our next point: How men and women think about the idea of advice.

Men are known to sometimes be negative. Under the guise of genuine faith we have an instinct of knowing when something is a lost cause. We accept how some things are beyond our control.

Women can be a little wishy-washy. Think about a time when a woman seeks advice and how it unfolds: It could be for personal reassurance, or genuinely needing a place to start during a tough time, either way, men normally offer the  colorful solutions of saying: “That sucks.” Those two words are our way of saying “It’s a lost cause.”

The impact of these words is magical. It creates a look on the face that is best described as though a dirty towel was dropped on another’s favorite meal. The reaction is almost immediate and has phrases attached to it like:

“Where is the sensitivity,” or “That’s all you have to say?” As mentioned above, yes, that is all we have to say.

Sometimes we will add in “As time passes it will get better,” but that is about as deep as many of us will go.

Men understand that advice, from our perspective, is simply having someone there to listen. It isn’t about finding answers, it’s about having someone that can simply hear us complain. While everyone at one time or another is guilty of dwelling on things, we all know that’s a path to nowhere.


Men and women think from two entirely separate points of view and that’s okay. Sometimes we make the mistake of thinking it would be better if we simply thought the same, but it really wouldn’t. This divide on how life is approached, considered, and acted on is what creates personalities. It also creates the opportunity to appreciate being ourselves.

These key differences between how men and women think also define the idea of dependency. In the differences between men and women we find the reasons people truly connect. It’s a discovery that our greatest connections aren’t built from similarity, but from differences that captured our interest and acted like a magnet.

Being different is a a valuable thing and it’s a good thing we all are.

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